The "R" word

Ah yes the dreaded "R" word...relationships. Something that is the topic of too many conversations these days. Every time I get on Facebook or go anywhere people are talking about relationships they have, wish they had, or havent had, at some point. But the worst one I hear is about the relationships they wish they had. Don't get me wrong, I would love for Prince Charming to come sweep me off my feet and that we could live happily ever after...oh but right, this is the real world and I barely have time to do anything, let alone start a new relationship right now. Relationships take time, care, and lost of work. I definitely don't have time, I currently care way too much about school/my career and my work consist of writing papers and sitting in my office all day (aka the library).

I think people are so caught up in all this relationship stuff that they forget to cherish the relationships they already have. At this point in our lives people are pressured to get married and start a life with someone else but for some of us that is not the plan right now, and quite frankly I am ok with that. I am almost 24 and when I tell people that I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years to move away and go to law school some people are shocked. But why? I was not ready to settle down and stop my life for some time so I could devote it to someone else. I wanted to grow, mature, learn, find my passions, travel, and start my career so that someday I could settle down and start a family and be ok. I was not ready to to give up my independence and fully give 100% of myself to make someone else happy. I wanted to make myself happy first before I could make someone else happy. Selfish? Maybe...but that's ok. I would rather be selfish now, by myself, than hurt someone else by being selfish with them.

The world needs all kinds of people and it's ok to not fit into what others think is the norm. Not just women, but men also deserve to be whatever age they want to be before they are ready to settle down. These years, these in between years, are the times where people find themselves, wether it's with the help of a significant other or a journey taken a lone. Either way it's ok.


Enjoy these years. Live, laugh love..and don't forget to do whatever truly makes you happy, even if that means being a lone :)